Just about everyone aspires to be a better version of themselves. After all, no one wants to repeat the same mistakes they’ve made in the past… and we all should have life goals we work towards – no matter how big or small.
But, it is tough to set standards and stick to them since our life objectives change as we grow older. And besides that, not everyone is built in the same fashion. Every one of us has our own personal difficulties and experiences to tell.
We are frequently so consumed by the stress of our careers and the toxicity of today’s society that we forget how to live a free and happy life. So, here are 5 life goals that will help you do just that by being a better you.
1. Become compassionate towards yourself
Don’t compare your situation to everyone else’s. Instead, be your own competitor. Focus your time and energy in trying to outdo yourself and be a better version of yourself. Why waste effort trying to outdo someone else?
Practise basic awareness of thinking and feeling. Particularly, try to become aware of your “critical inner voice” without trying to change anything. Allow yourself to be imperfect.
Try out self-care and self-love! Throw a solo dancing party. Every day, write down five things that made you smile. Or, even five things that weren’t as bad as you were expecting them to be. Detox from technology. Learn to say ‘no’. You are more important than your to-do list.
And most importantly – get the right amount of sleep! Don’t give yourself a hard time for having an extra hour in bed on the weekends when you know you have chores to do. Your body needs time to rest and recover. You are never going to be the best version of yourself if your brain and body is sleep deprived.
2. Avoid making decisions while highly emotional
Your future-self will thank you for it.
Countless situations you encounter in life will challenge your patience and composure. But, how can you ensure that you don’t make drastic decisions during those moments?
Simply remove yourself from the situation. Take a break. Whether it be 5 minutes, 5 hours or 5 days. Allow your mind to go through any emotions before those emotions control you. (There’s a good reason we keep hearing the phrase ‘sleep on it’ everywhere!)
Talk to others to get their point of view – it’s always helpful to see situations from multiple perspectives. People are great listeners and often spot things we easily miss.
By preventing yourself from making decisions based on emotions, you can avoid irrational choices and a whole heap of regret.
3. Help others
Even the smallest gestures, such as helping someone in carrying their bags, are greatly appreciated by others. There’s a reason helping others feels good. We get self-satisfaction because we know we can make someone else’s life better.
Make a habit of considering others in your actions and behaviours.
“One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.”
How do you wish to be treated by others? If you behave in such a way around others, you’ll invite more of the same. If there is anything we have learned this year, it’s that social connections are essential to all human wellbeing.
4. Learn something new
Learning something new not only improves your brain function but also makes you feel better about yourself. There is no such thing as having too many skills or learning too much. Be curious! The more questions you ask, the more information you will learn.
Nothing beats the satisfaction of accomplishment. Setting a goal for yourself to learn something new and then achieving it is really fulfilling and creates a feeling of pride. Being pushed out of your comfort zone when you do try something new can be a lot of fun.
Join an art class, or start a business from your hobby. Even if you only have a spare 30 minutes, you can grab a canvas and start painting (yes, even if you’re notoriously bad at it!). Making art is a means of self-expression that is also therapeutic. Exploring your creative outlets is also a great de-stressing exercise.
5. Maintain an open mind.
Be open-minded. The phrase is used in psychology to describe people’s willingness to explore other points of view or try new things.
This means not being judgemental, negative, or dismissive of other people or situations. What can you be more accepting of and/or tolerable of? Your abrasive coworker, an ex partner, a situation or circumstance that is beyond your control?
Peace is the healthiest emotion of all: openness, acceptance, and a readiness to be in the moment. Keeping an open mind to new ideas and experiences will help you grow into a more powerful and dynamic person. Your knowledge and experiences only strive to strengthen one another.
One of the consequences of being closed-minded is that it commonly leads to increased negativity. When you’re surrounded by negativity and stubbornness, you’re not being the best version of yourself.
Keep in mind that modest steps may make a big difference. Take it easy. Consider the sentiments of others. But keep in mind that the most important person to look after is yourself.